Tuesday, February 5, 2013

The Curious Case of Trenton Duckett-Part 1

Trenton Duckett


I was asked to look into the case of Trenton Duckett and to do a post on his story. I vaguely remember when he went missing but what I remember most about his story is that his mother, Melinda Duckett, committed suicide after appearing on Nancy Grace. I remember thinking that she must be guilty because why else would she commit suicide while her child was still missing unless she knew without a doubt that her child was never coming home and how could she know such a thing unless she was responsible for his disappearance. I assumed that he would eventually be found dead once police were able to track Melinda Duckett's whereabouts the night Trenton went missing. I didn't know until now that poor Trenton has still not been found and while researching this case I am not so sure Melinda Duckett is guilty. The more I read about this case the more mysterious it becomes and the more drawn I am to it.

Case Overview-

On August 27th, 2006 two year old Trenton Duckett was reported missing by his mother, Melinda Duckett. The only evidence, a screen window in the bedroom Trenton was in was cut. An amber alert was issued and bloodhounds called in to assist with the search but nothing was found.

At first glance it appeared to be another case of a custody dispute gone bad and initial suspicion was pointed at the father and estranged husband, Joshua Duckett.  Allegedly, Josh had sent Melinda a threatening email from his myspace account saying he was going to kill her and Trenton. He denies ever sending such an email. When police went to analyze his computer, it could not be found. Police interviewed Josh however and felt he was being truthful. He took a lie detector and police were satisfied with the results.



Joshua Duckett told the news media that he had not seen his son since June 2006 and made a public plea saying, "Whoever has him, please return him safe. I love him to death. He's my pride and joy, and I just want him returned safe." He also said he was doing everything he could to help police and cooperating fully with their investigation.

As police continue their investigation, Melinda Duckett refuses to take a polygraph test which although is not an indicator of guilt, certainly makes police start to question why she won't take one. As police start to piece together a timeline of events, it becomes a possibility that Trenton could have actually gone missing up to two days before he was reported missing because the only person who could verify seeing him since he was picked up at daycare on the 25th of August, was his mother Melinda.



On September 8th, 2006, only 24 hours after her interview with Nancy Grace, Melinda Duckett takes her own life leaving behind 3 suicide notes that can be found here and will also be discussed in more detail in another post. Her suicide certainly leads many to believe that she was overtaken with guilt and had harmed Trenton. I was initially one of those people but after reading more about the events leading up to Trenton's disappearance, now I am not so sure.

 
With the information about Joshua Duckett given so far in this post, one would think he was a distraught father willing to do anything to help police get his son back but one interesting fact about Joshua Duckett is that his father, James Duckett, who was a police officer is currently on Death Row for the rape and murder of an 11 year old girl. Of course this does not mean that Joshua Duckett is a rapist or a murderer but it does make you wonder if maybe the apple didn't fall too far from the tree.

In the second part of this post I will go over events that happened leading up to Trenton's disappearance as well as include documents where Joshua Duckett made accusations against Melinda Duckett and then later recanted them claiming his mother made him do it. Josh Duckett and his mother, Carla Massero went out of their way to make Melinda's life hell and it could be that she committed suicide because she could not handle the pressure put upon her by Josh Duckett, his mother, and then the attacks and accusations made by Nancy Grace or she could be guilty. In the meantime please check out http://duckettbucket.blogspot.com/ there is a plethora of information there that is extremely hard to ignore or dispute that may just have you rethinking exactly what you think you know about this case and what could have happened to Trenton Duckett.


For Further Reading- The Transcript of the interview between Nancy Grace and Melinda Duckett
http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0609/08/ng.01.html










45 comments:

  1. I've read this post and the links included. I haven't changed my mind and don't think I will. I firmly believe that Melinda killed Trenton and disposed of him. Trenton was an abused and neglected little boy. I believe Melinda abused him, but both parents neglected him. Joshua is a piece of work but I don't believe he had anything to do with Trenton's disappearance. Melinda's interview with Nancy Grace was off the chart's deceptive. I don't watch NG but I read the transcript. I'll have to watch and see if her body language agrees with the deceptiveness in her language. I don't know if you read Peter Hyatt's SA blog, but he has a few articles with analysis on Trenton't case.

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    1. I do read Peter's blog and will definitely read those articles and probably, with his permission, use them in the next parts of this story. There is a ton info in this case and I have only hit the tip of the iceberg.

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    2. A lot to sink your teeth into in this one.

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    3. I have to say i agree with you I live in the same town, and have all my life, WE DO NOT KIDNAP CHILDREN, if she was not guilty, she would have taken the test and would have been out there looking for her child. Not getting money from a bank hiding it in her car and righting letters telling her parents how much she loved them.

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  2. Thank you for bringing Trenton Duckett's plight to light once again. As the author of the website you referenced "duckettbucket" I have diligently persued the truth in this case. As stated by Lady Lake Police Chief Ed Nathonson there are only two facts found in this case: Melinda Duckett is dead and Trenton Duckett is missing. In my exhausting research to exhonerate Melinda I have come to two conclusions: Melinda Duckett was murdered and Trenton Duckett was taken by Carla Massero and her 6'9" boyfriend Jason Fort.

    Melinda Duckett herself wrote in her missing child report that she believed Jason Fort at the behest of Carla Massero took Trenton because Josh did NOT have the backbone to do it.

    Melinda was adamontly advised by her attorney Kimberly Schulte to NOT take a lie detector test. She agreed to take a stress test and she failed...because she was stressed! Your readers can view the dvd of Leesburg Police interrogating Melinda the night Trenton went missing. It was a 2 1/2 hour dvd and I was only able to put up the last 15 minutes on uTube. I posted it on uTube as "The Inquisition of Melinda Duckett".

    I also want to point out that Josh and his mother Carla are again harassing the young mother of Josh's other son (now 5 years old). Josh impregnated the young junior in high school when Trenton was missing 6 months. It is history repeating itself.

    Your post stated that Trenton was not seen by anyone for two days prior to his being abducted. That is not the case. Melinda's grandparents saw Trenton Saturday up until Melinda left around 4 pm. On Sunday, Trenton was seen by a Wendy's employee at the drive through window and a conversation took place with Melinda and "Peggy" about Trenton's name, her tattoo, etc on Sunday around noon. "Peggy" took a polygraph and passed.

    Also, Josh Duckett's computer was NOT analyzed. Melinda's two laptops were thoroughly analyzed by FBI in Quanico Virginia. Nothing was found on her hard drive. What FDLE agent Denise Nevers found was the IP address used to send the email. But, your readers should know that WiFi hotspots reflect the WiFi's IP address. So if someone parked outside of Melinda's apartment they could pick up her IP address from her wireless account. Which I believe was the case, because 11 minutes after the email was sent to Melinda a post from the same myspace account was sent to a friend of Josh's - Melinda would NOT have sent her a message.

    Another key factor in all this is that Josh went to visit his dad in prison on August 12, 2006. He went to discuss the threatening email and its repercusions and he learned his father sided with Melinda and was sending her money to help support Trenton. This infuriated Josh and that night Melinda got word that Josh was threatening her and Trenton. She frantically called friends to borrow $5,000 to help protect her from Josh. She was unable to get the money so she kept a close eye on Trenton, scared to death.

    As far as Melnda's "suicide" there are many red flags: There were TWO shots. The shotgun that killed her was 50 years old and had not been shot in over 20 years. The magazine holding 3 shells in the shotgun could NOT be fired because it was jammed in backwards. The birdshot shells had to be manually inserted TWICE. Her own brand new shotgun laid on the floorboard of the backseat of her car loaded, having never been fired. Her suicide notes were folded neatly on the center console of her car in plain view that the police did not "find" for 2 weeks. But the bigest red flag was the note she left on the kitchen counter: "Laying down for a quick nap I'll eat when I wake up".


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    1. The facts do not support your theory, however they do support bias against Joshua Duckett because he has the unfortunate fate of having a pig of a father in prison, you have no proof of Joshua Duckett, or his family members doing anything wrong, you say Melinda was murdered and so on but the forensics just do not support that, it is hard to believe that a young mother did something to her son and lied about it and indicated the father but she set him up with that phony email the police proved that, it was Melinda who was perjuring herself, that is a fact. It was Melinda who lied to take her son from his father, and if she was afraid of Joshua, she was not afraid of his convicted rapist and murderous father, at least not afraid enough to refuse cash from him. Also in one of Melinda's so called homemade erotica tapes you can hear the baby in the background, which bad apple tree was she the product of? There are conspiracies in our country, that is certainly true, however I think the author of this website and yourself are witch hunting and that is unfair, Melinda was unstable it is obvious, she killed herself because she was afraid the truth was coming...It is unimaginable to believe that a mother would either kill or hand off her child out of vengeance, or to cover up her lies in court, maybe it was an accident, but Melinda Duckett took the truth to her grave, all fingers that pointed at Joshua were untrue, the police proved that, Melinda's actions proved that, and her grandparents cannot be counted on for backing up when Trenton was last seen, they just cannot be relied on. Melinda was in trouble psychologically and that is why she committed suicide, sad but true...

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    2. I'd like to remind you that the 'home made erotica' you mention also features JOSH. That Trenton was seen by an employee of a restaurant who had no reason to lie. And that all the evidence DOES back up the theory.
      In truth, I have no idea what the truth is- but the fact remains that there is evidence which backs up this theory.
      As a gun owner myself, I know that if I misfired in a closet at close range my ears would be shot and I certainly wouldn't have been able to fire again straight away. Melinda was really short too, and the EVIDENCE of her height compared with the length of the shotgun and the position she was in does not correspond with suicide... I would have been virtually impossible for her to have pulled that old trigger.
      How about you do some research before spouting off rubbish based in no evidence. I have read the court documents, the reports, the interview transcripts. And although I can't say I've made up my mind 100% there is definitely evidence that supports the idea that Melinda had nothing to do with her son's death.

      Oh, and by the way. Maytruthprevail has no bias about Josh's father being on death row because if you had done your homework you would know that he believes him to be innocent.

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    3. Maytruthprevail....smh Really.. Let me find out you kin to Melinda Duckett!

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    4. Well im sure the fbi and all took the time out and study all this so are you all saying yall are smarter than the fbi...smh

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    5. Wow!!We can all tell you might have made it through the seond grade!!Your english is so good!LOL at you!!

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    6. Anonymous thinks that just because you are kin to someone that you will twist, deceive, lie, sell your soul for them even though they are in the wrong. Clearly, that's how Team carla sees, thinks, wants, or expect her kin to be... I suspect that their kin are kin through more than one facet... I digress. No, Team carla, normal good folk are not like yall. We as readers and observers are just seeing the tip of the iceberg, and it already disgusts. I hesitate to want to know what's really going on in those dark, sad, and demented minds of Carla, her sidekick, and everyone else involved. How long can one be in denial that the world and everyone in it would be better off without them in it, and that with each breath they take displaces a little of the good of those around with their sickness? Understandable though, their minds aren't capable of fathoming such concepts.

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  3. Nancy Grace could drive anyone to suicide...

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  4. JEAN CASAREZ, COURT TV: Well, the latest is investigators are saying that a letter that Melinda Duckett said her ex-husband wrote her, threatening harm to she and Trenton, was actually written by Melinda herself and e-mailed to herself. Melinda took that letter back to authorities back in July of this year, said she wanted to prosecute her ex- husband for threatening that harm. The result was the temporary restraining order saying he could have no contact with his baby. Days later, the child went missing, and following that, as we all know, she committed suicide.

    GRACE: Here is that e-mail, Jean, that you just detailed. Quote, "I hate you because you ruined my life and took my son. I`m going to hunt you and your damn son down one day and kill both of you. Years ago, you stole my heart and F-ed me over. I don`t even think Trenton is my son anyway, and you`re going to pay for what you`ve done to my life."

    Now, how is it, Jean Casarez, that they figured out Melinda Duckett sent this to herself and then told police her husband sent it?

    CASAREZ: Well, it looks like two people came forward, and they said, We know -- we have heard that she hacked into a computer, changed Josh`s e- mail address and then sent that letter to herself. So what happened was, the state attorney`s office here in Florida issued a subpoena to Sprint telephone company to look into it, and it was confirmed that she had written the letter.

    But the big question, Nancy, is once this was found out, it looks like there was a draft of a probable cause affidavit for her arrest -- two crimes, offense against intellectual property and perjury. The question is tonight, did she know that she possibly was going to be prosecuted for this, and in fact, could she possibly lose her son as a result?

    GRACE: We`re showing that affidavit right now that Jean Casarez is telling us about. The investigation also reveals Mr. Duckett`s account user name had been changed to first name "F-face," last name "D-head" from "the city of Hell." OK. http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0609/21/ng.01.html

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  5. Here's some documentation on the email

    http://duckettbucket.blogspot.com/2009/09/timeline-of-threatening-myspace-email.html

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  6. Tori, from what I've been able to gather from reading the other blogs, you are reopening your first blog? Cool. But are you going to finish the Duckett saga here? And continue with this blog? And can you tell me what your new blog is called. I'm getting dizzy with ask the different blogs. Not that, that it's hard for me to do.

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  7. Thank you for your readers who have been visiting my website. I recently purchased the entire file on the restraining order. Included in the file was the paternity settlement agreement signed by Josh Duckett. This was recorded in the Sumter County Courts. The most dynamic piece of evidence in this case as to motive is that Josh signed this contract giving Melinda custody of Trenton and that he would only have visitation with Trenton. He signed this contract 3 days after they were married July 6, 2005. This document would supercede any other document filed in court. The only thing that would give Josh custody would be for Melinda Duckett to be dead.

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  8. Just found out last week that Debi Duckett left Josh Duckett and moved out of their house in Inverness and she now lives in Leesburg. Apparently she told him she didn't want his mother Carla Massero involved in their lives anymore. Anything to do with Josh's relatives and friends are now removed from Debi's FaceBook. And Josh just had a birthday May 15th. There's trouble brewing in "paradise".

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  9. I remember this well as I lived just a short drive from where Trenton disappeared. I remember Melinda too as I had seen her with the baby at Wal-Mart just 5 or 6 months before he went missing. I remember them because she placed the baby in the seat of the shopping cart and entered the store ahead of me, I caught up with them to take a better look as the girl was so pretty and petite and I thought she was very very young and the baby was adorable, just as cute as he could be and I smiled because this was mostly a retirement area so she really stood out, I was wondering if she was visiting her parents at "The Villages" the retirement community of 60,000 plus retirees. Then 6 months later the story broke, I remember thinking OH MY GOD! That is the beautiful Asian girl I saw in Wal-Mart and the baby she was with! Turns out she lived just one town over and her grandparents lived in The Villages. She killed herself at their home there in the closet. It breaks my heart that she killed herself, so young, so misled somehow and little Trenton, just a tragedy that he has not been found. What a frigging mess!

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  10. Thanks to one of your readers I added a tab to the blog for the Chronological Order of the case...still have work to do on it.

    An update on Josh Duckett. His wife Debi is divorcing him because of his "sick relationship with his mother".

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    1. How would you know that? SO much for "no personal attacks, and a drama free zone"

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  11. I could have sworn I saw him on a news show called "fishpicks" with Larry Sprinkle in North Carolina. The boys name was also trenton. Someone should check into it.

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  12. Joshua Duckett had nothing to do with this and apple's sometimes do fall far from the tree, I know that for sure!!!! He spent more time with that child than Melinda did, and she went off the deep end and took the attitude of Joshua may someday have visitation if they ever find out that she wrote the so called e-mail from Joshua that got her custody she was also selling provacative videos and pics of herself online where you can sometimes hear Trenton in the background! Melinda killed herself because she feared the police were getting too close to the truth, that she was guilty. I am not sure why people say negative things about Joshua Duckett I think it is probably bias because his father is in prison, which has nothing to do with him! Only an idiot would think that Joshua Duckett was guilty because his father was a pig!!!! He was not the one acting insane after the kid went missing, that was Melinda, he is not the one who perjured himself in court to gain custody and cut off all rights to the other parent, that was Melinda, I think your first thought was the right one I know logic is not always the answer but in this case it is, Melinda either handed over Trenton or she killed him with neglect, either way she made sure to take her lies to the grave with her, and that my dear makes her a cruel and selfish b_ _ _ _!

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    1. I'm assuming this is Carla.
      Josh was also in that video (NOT videos)
      I responded to your other comment above. I'm afraid saying something over and over doesn't make it true carla. Josh isn't a saint and if Melinda was guilty do you not think with all the police attention on her some actual evidence would have appeared by now?

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    2. Josh did not spend time with Trenton, Carla Massero took care of Trenton...after setting up Melinda Duckett for the baker act and DCF got involved. And just like with Josh's other son Ryder, attempts were made on the mother Stephani with calls to DCF, calling the police with false accusations etc. all orchestrated by Carla Massero. The so called email did NOT give Melinda custody of Trenton...DCF awarded sole custody of Trenton to Melinda on May 26 2006. Five weeks BEFORE the email. I do not feel that James Duckett is guilty of his crime, but was set up by the hungry prosecutors to solve the case for political reasons and that Carla Massero was also happy to have him put in jail so she could be with her lover Brian Boggs whom she married. As far as Josh not acting insane when his kid went missing you are right. He partied. He made money off the donations and he got a young junior in highschool pregnant with his son Ryder when Trenton was missing 6 months.. And Carla Massero helped destroy Josh's marriage to Debi. They married March 2012 and are divorced October 2013. The reason? Carla and Josh have a sick relationship with each other. Now who is the cruel and selfish b____!

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  13. I believe that Melinda drowned Trenton and disposed of his body because of vengeance against Josh. Asians are known do to that. You can also see it in her pictures. She is an conceded, selfish, psycho girl. Then when she realized she was going to be caught, she couldn't handle that she murdered her own son, she killed herself. An eye for an eye! See what a spiteful person can do. She was brought up spoiled with entitlement issues. She should never had a child! Also it's ridiculous to compare Josh to his dad! His dad killed a girl not related to him. This is Josh's own son.

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  14. Asians are known to do that? Wow racist much? White, Black and Hispanics mothers are not known to do that? By the way, Andrea Yates and Susan Smith were White. Race aside, this was a tragedy and this poor boy had parents who were not fit to raise a child.

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  15. Ok, where have I heard a negative Asian reference before in this case?

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    1. "when i get my hands on your fuckin chink ass you'll regret what you've done. damn foreign slanted eyed bitches don't belong here anyway. and i'll bury your son with you. " this is a direct quote from the email sent to Melinda Duckett on her private messages on myspace. To see the full email and its timeline that proves Josh sent it to her read here:http://duckettbucket.blogspot.com/2009/09/timeline-of-threatening-myspace-email.html

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  16. Hey Torie.I have been emailing you about this case.Haven't heard from you in a while.I know you were busy moving and all.I need to check my emails though.Anyway,I have been in touch with maytruthprevail by phone and text.She and I have been discussing the case and her theories.I feel that she is on the mark!!The one theory she has of Malinda being murdered holds more water than the theory of her committing suicide.I have recently been able to bring myself to read all the files that are on maytruthprevails blog and I found a couple things that were missed.One theory she(maytruthprevail) has is Malinda was murdered.Shot first with a small caliber gun and then shot with the shotgun to cover up the smaller wound.This is where I found an entry in the M.E. report of the examination of Malindas body.The M.E. said there were small caliBer blood drops on her left foot!!The word is CALIBER not caliPer as in the size of a weapon not caliper which is used in terms of measurement!!There is law enforcement that believes she botched up trying to kill herself!!This is also nonsense!!Malinda had her own shotgun so that means she knew how to use one.She is right handed and we are all creatures of habit and yet she decides to shoot herself in the left side of her head????Very awkward especially with her being the heighth she was!!There is an officer that theorized Malinda first tried to shoot herself and missed thus the hole in the wall of the closet,and then succeeded the next shot??How do you explain the fact there was NO powder residue on either side of her face,no burned hair,no burst eardrums,no residue found on any of the walls on either side of her head,and last but not least,the theory that she used her toe to pull the trigger is also off the mark!!The M.E. report states that there were no marks on either of her feet other than the blood mentioned earlier!!How does one pull or push the trigger of a shotgun and there not be any marks from recoil and from falling over??She pulled her foot out before the recoil???I have owned many guns and the recoil at the end of the barrel can damage you if you are standing next to it!!Also the recoil can twist the gun out of your hands if you do not have a firm grip on it!!So tell me,does this still sound like a botched suicide of a right handed person that shot herself on the left side under her chin???Or maybe there is a lot of stones unturned or even over looked???

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    1. With your toe. Ask Curt Cobain. that's a small area and the gun would kick backwards not forwards hence no recoil. The hole is likely a piece of buck that spread.

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  17. Recoil would kick back or strait down to the buttstock. Would likely not have busted the ear drums either. She's right handed hence the left side of face. Try the position yourself a right handed person would turn their head sideways to the left to watch their right hand naturally.

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    1. Oh yeah.Here is another fact of guns.There is no such thing as a shotgun with NO RECOIL!!All weapons have a certain amouny of recoil.Don't know what planet you are from but you are not a gun expert for sure!!

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  18. Trenton Duckett's grandfather James Aren Duckett has been on death row since 1988. I interviewed him at the prison in September 2010 and we have corresponded many times. Melinda believed him to be innocent of the rape and murder of the 11 year old girl Theresa McAbee. I keep abreast of his case on the Lake County Florida courts and noticed that Jigsaw productions purchased $2000 of transcripts. I contacted them and was directed to a researcher there named Alexander. We have corresponded many times and I sent him the info I had plus he knew about my blog on James at www.anotherduckettbucket.blogspot.com. The James Duckett case will be presented in the series on CNN "Death Row Stories" and James' case will air on Sunday March 30th at 9 PM est. and reruns will continue throughout the week until April 6th. Here is a link to the article about the series which is being co-produced by Robert Redford's Sundance Productions. http://cnnpressroom.blogs.cnn.com/2014/01/13/cnn-announces-new-original-series-death-row-stories-with-executive-producers-alex-gibney-and-robert-redford/

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  19. tori and maytruthprevail and others that have an open and just mind, just wanted to let yall know that your efforts are appreciated. reading this story and others brings a tear to my eye. I don't know how you deal with or ignore all of the stupidity that exists out there. My heart yearns to reach and out and help in anyway, but I am afraid that I will not be able to hold down anger and temper to provide any positive assistance. Please keep up the good work and keep watching out for those that the system failed.

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  20. I wonder why she didn't leave a note for Trenton?

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    1. I wonder why there is so much trash in this world? karma is a bitch team carla, the trash man is coming sooner or later

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    2. Trenton couldn't read yet??You think that might have something to do with it??I for one still believe she was forced to wright those notes.Hence no "note" to Trenton.

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    3. There is so much trash out there because they are spawned from Satan himself!!We can only fight the good fight against them and as you say the trash man is coming!!

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    4. no way in hell that those roaches are mine, but someone, please send them down my way

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  21. Not surprised that these sick f's sold the private tapes of a dead woman to the porn sites. How long did that money last, team carla? Pretty freaking pathetic. smh. If I ever become terminally ill or similar, I'm taking all of these sick f'ers with me.

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    1. I thought Melinda sold the tapes? They were online before she shot herself I thought?

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    2. Melinda never made the tapes to make money!She would never do anything to taint her reputation as a mother.They were supposed to be for thier entertainment but once again,Josh and his family found a way to make her look bad!!She also didn't shoot herself!There has been new proof that was found in the med. examiners file that says small caliber blood drops were found on her left foot!!That was a huge find!!There is on going investigating and as soon as it can be disclosed by outside sources,all will be revealed!!MAY THE TRUTH PREVAIL!!

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  22. Psychopathy is an inherited trait.

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  23. In general, parents that do not want the children they bring into the world have big issues. Increased hostility can often be seen when a parent is forced by the State to pay child support. Ironically, many children seem to experience untimely deaths or harm around periods of recent child support enforcement litigation. Child support can become a $100,000 or more lawsuit. People should get a clue and start making choices they can live with rather than carelessly throwing around biological fluid that create children they do not want. There are better hobbies out there. Birds of feather seem to flock together in a standard fare of low morality life issues as a large percentage of the population from that area seem to have unplanned pregnancies, long crime resumes and mug shots. A parent's intent should be questioned if a parent that has not seen his or her child over long inexcusable periods of time then seems suddenly interested in spending time alone with the child during a child support litigation, ruling out an intent to harm or intimidate the child and or parent. A supervised gradual reintroduction and acquaintance following longs absences sounds reasonable and in the best interest of the child. How can a child respect and obey an adult he or she does not trust? To some children are property and may feel child support is time share rent as an entitlement following a long absence. Sudden interest should send a red flag for evaluation. Especially, when a relationship between the child and parent is strained and the child is not familiar with the estranged parent. When the estranged parent seems suddenly interested, the custodial, parent may feel that the well being of children is placed in a precarious situation, where child support can seem like a trade off of risk verses monetary benefit, especially if the visiting parent did not have an interest in children prior to enforcement. These are issues few want to address, but they probably do exist in some families. A red flag may be when a parent does not exhibit a conscientious demeanor. Most concerned parents want at least weekly updates on a child's well being, sending support, birthday gifts and as such and make an effort to maintain a connection with the child. Often a relationship is severed over abuse, lack of maturity, emotional health, lack of companionship or substance abuse issues. Perhaps, if birth control is not 100%, one may want the 100% option and hold off on having a romp in sack before establishing some kind of observation. My post is based on a hypothetical scenario rather than an explicit circumstance.

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